CHOOSEday Laugh It Off Club – From Stuck to Rolling (Yes, Even You 😏)
- Tove Kane
- May 5
- 3 min read
There’s a moment… right before something shifts…Where everything feels heavy, slow, and just a bit too hard.
That’s where we began today.
At 12:30pm, a room full of humans arrived on Zoom carrying all sorts — stress, healing journeys, “I’ll start tomorrow” energy — and within minutes, we were doing something wildly simple and surprisingly powerful:
We started… pushing the car (our metaphor for the heavy thing in our life).
🚗 The Car That Wouldn’t Move (At First…)
You know that feeling when life feels like trying to push a car that’s firmly decided:
“No. I live here now.”
That’s resistance.
That’s the start.
And today, we felt it — not just talked about it.
Because here’s the truth most people skip over:The beginning is supposed to feel hard.
Not because you’re failing.Because you’re starting.
So instead of trying to overhaul our lives in one dramatic, cinematic transformation…We leaned into the tiniest, most doable action.
A push.
Then another.
And another.
🧠 NLP Moment: State First, Story Second
Here’s where it gets deliciously clever.
Your brain loves to tell stories like:
“I can’t do this.”“This is too much.”“I’ve tried before…”
But today, we didn’t argue with the story.
We changed the state.
Through movement, breath, laughter — we shifted the internal chemistry first.
And suddenly…The car that “wouldn’t move” started to roll.
Not because we forced it.Because we built momentum.
🔁 Momentum > Motivation (Every Time)
We played with this idea in real time:
Push for 2 seconds → stop → start again (ugh, exhausting 😅)
Push steadily → keep going → let momentum build (oooh, now we’re talking)
And there it was.
Stop-start uses more energy than steady, imperfect movement.
Read that again.
Because how often do we do this in life?
Start a habit.Stop.Start again.Get frustrated.Declare ourselves “bad at consistency.”
When really… we just never let the car roll.
⚙️ And Then… The Clutch Moment
We also explored that slightly awkward, very human moment:
You’ve built momentum…You go to “start the engine”…And… you stall it. 🙃
Classic.
But instead of making that mean:
“I’ve ruined it. I’m useless.”
We reframed it:
“Ah. That’s feedback.”
Maybe we needed a bit more momentum. Maybe the timing was off. Maybe we’re learning.
Not failing. Learning.
(Your nervous system exhaled a little reading that, didn’t it?)
🌱 Tiny Steps. Big Shifts.
We grounded all of this in something beautifully simple:
Three mindful breaths. Same time every day.
Not:
Meditate for 45 minutes on a mountain that you've scaled alone without safety harnesses like you're Charlize Theron in the Netflix movie "Apex"
Become a brand new human overnight
Fix your entire life before lunch
Just… three breaths.
Because when you make the step small enough, resistance doesn’t get a say.
And once you start? Well… you already know what happens next.
The car moves.
🌿 Bonus Magic: Nature Knows Things
We also dipped into something a little earthy (literally):
A gentle invitation to step outside…Walk in nature…Maybe even take your shoes off for a moment and feel the ground beneath you.
Cold? Maybe. Worth it? Also maybe. 😄
Because sometimes the fastest way to regulate your nervous system…Is to remember you’re part of something bigger than your to-do list. Personally I've started calling mine a "Ta-dah List" and I do jazz-hands just talking about it.
💛 A Quiet Truth That Landed
Somewhere between the laughter, the metaphors, and the tiny shifts… this truth settled in:
You don’t need to change everything. You just need to start moving.
And keep going… gently, consistently… in the direction that matters.
Even if you’re a little off course sometimes (we all are). Even if it’s messy. Even if you wobble.
Momentum will meet you there.
🔔 Join Us Next CHOOSEday (first Tuesday of the month)
If this stirred something in you (or you just fancy laughing with a bunch of legends on Zoom):
CHOOSEday Laugh It Off Club 📅 First Tuesday of every month ⏰ 12:30pm (UK time) 💻 Zoom ID: 939 5020 5071 🔐 Passcode: CHOOSE
Come as you are — stuck, soaring, somewhere in between.
We’ll get the car moving together.
🎁 Take This With You
Before you go…
Pause.
Inhale…Exhale…
Do that three times.
That’s it. That’s the start.
No drama. No pressure. No “new you by Friday.”
Just a gentle push.
And who knows…You might already be rolling. 🚗💛 #laughteryoga #momentum #positivemindset #tovekanemindfulness
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